The main question to answer before taking any action in this direction is: why do you want to become a leader? Get more resources, respect, recognition? Realize your desires? Great plan. Are you willing to pay for it (currency is your responsibility)?
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If so, we have good news for you: most likely, the competition will be small.
There are many different models of leadership, some easier to reproduce, some more difficult, the development of charisma – in general, a separate issue. Today we will talk about the three-part technology, which is built into the behavior in a week or two and very quickly gives a noticeable result.
In all situations of choice, you offer your option
Did it go badly? You take full responsibility for the event.
How exactly to do it? Imagine that you decide to meet friends. Instead of “When are you comfortable? Do you want to go to the movies, the theater, at home? That movie or this one?” offer: “Let’s go to the movies on Saturday, at 6 o’clock?”. The point here is not in imposing one’s desires. These are friends and girlfriends. If someone doesn’t like it, you adjust the plan. The idea is to think and suggest your option.
The difficulty is to follow this practice always. Not only in safe situations with the choice of “good/good”, but also in those moments when unpleasant consequences are possible. You start training on the little things and gradually accustom yourself (and others) to what you make. Because it is always easier to agree with someone else’s choice than to offer your own. Especially if there is a risk of making a mistake.
Why take responsibility for mistakes? Why is it bad to “jump off” and blame others? Because that’s the only way you can learn to deal with serious decisions. In fact, responsibility cannot be translated. You can convince yourself, less often than others, that it is not your choice, but somewhere in the depths of your soul, you understand that it is in him. And if you have not learned to live responsibly, then you will avoid making decisions where others can not be translated.
Then we come to the second practice.
Working with your own fear
The paradox is that choosing yourself logically seems more profitable than listening to a leader. Indeed, you can always choose/offer what is best for you, and the negative consequences can be minimized for yourself. Why then do people avoid responsibility and how to work it out at home?
Over billions of years, the psyche has learned to control behavior in such a way as to maximize the chances of survival. To do this, we have emotions, they dictate behavior. Fear says, “Don’t go there, it will be bad.” We should feel something “bad” once or twice, as we remember it, and begin to avoid such situations. This is one of the central emotional mechanisms. He is very old and very strong. And the psyche does not like to take risks. Fear arises even where there is simply a chance of a problem. The shadow of disaster. Because under natural conditions, a bad consequence is usually associated with death or serious injury. And no risk is justified.
Are you really at risk of dying in today’s world? Usually not. And what are you afraid of? Negative experiences. In 99% of cases, they are associated with communication with other people. And you really do not want to experience shame, feelings of stupidity, condemnation, guilt…
Do you need to make a decision? Close your eyes. Imagine the most negative scenario, even if it is impossible in objective reality. Live it. Make sure you can really go through it. Repeat this with each difficult decision, gradually making it easier. With regular training and the first practice, you will gradually find it easier to do so. If you are really scared, do not break yourself, visit a specialist.
A group for a leader or a leader for a group?
People are willing to go where they are good. Always think – what will be good for others? And what do they think about what is good for them? If you have taken into account the interests of others, you can build your own. The more and more often your behavior suits others, the easier it is for them to agree to do as you wish. Sometimes they will agree to believe your own words, just out of habit.
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Source: Ukrgate
